A Time To Heal Abuse - When Do You Start Counseling

Wobbling On The Wall

When does a person know that it is time to re-enter the painful past? 

I remember I asked my counselor the Humpty Dumpty question, "If you open me up will you be able to put me back together again?"

Artist Asia Pasek

Isn't that the BIG one? The one concern that keeps survivors of child abuse from healing from what was experienced because we don't want to loose the little bit of sanity we have skillfully establish in survival mode and more importantly what seem to be stability of the present. But, are you really living, if you don't look square into the stubborn facts that keep popping up frequently disguised as mysterious bodily illness or sensations that freeze our ability to move on and grow to love ourselves and others?


I have found that the One who is Worthy of taking your hand to walk through what you must see is able and faithful of your full trust - but no one else is capable to start the reel without destroy your sanity. Frankly another person - a mere soul like you - hasn't a clue how to untangled the mess of abuse you lived through. So finding a counselor is not as essential as knowing that God alone is the true orchestrator of all permanent and beneficial healing.

The Good News

Lessons await to be solidified. Meaning is needs to be given. Segments of time rattling about want to be sifted by the One Who knows and is wise to separate what matters and qualifies as memories necessary to face and be persevered through. Too many people like to close the door, seal down the edges of the rug with do-it-yourself duck tape, and pretend that the present is all that is real in life. At least we can hope until we are triggered to unravel again.

Sadly, the only way to live fullest in the NOW is to be brave enough to face the well chosen scenes of past that must be restored and redeemed for full value. Pain does not happen without purpose created to help us be transformed into God's likeness but the refining work can only be done if an adult-child submits/surrenders to Him to lead the way.

Talk about scary! Talk about bravery! Talk about embracing life! Everyone comes to the point when they must decide it is time. Don't rush ahead or lag behind. Walk with the One Who made you to begin with - His timing is perfect.

One Source - One Healer

So much awaits - you just need to trust were you already sense you are being called, but not for merely the healing, but to Know the ONE who calls you to be healed.

New Blog for Survivors of Child Abuse

Its purpose is:

•  to encourage survivors by learning healing is possible and the child abuse cycle can be stopped,
•  to support the acceptance of a disorder diagnosis for mental illness resulting from child abuse
•  to seek specific studies developed to help survivors of child abuse,
•  and share healing information and experiences for adult survivors. 

Artist: Amylee Weeks

Since 2008, I have been writing a blog "Abuse and Trauma - hope and healing", to share my healing struggles and real life experiences while I was going through the healing process. Now I feel it is important to be more specific in the audience I wish to reach.

Developmental Trauma Disorder 

Development Trauma Disorder has been proposed by therapist/counselor to be a specific classification of a psychological disorder. Being a survivor I am very encouraged that a unique classification is being considered so that research, funding and specific treatments/assistance will become available for adult survivors of child abuse.

When adult survivors are targeted for help and healing, the cycle of child abuse can be stopped one person at a time but each person helped dynamically effects a entire new family and coming generations.

My dream is for this blog to be one of many starting places for adult survivors of child abuse to:

• gain hope, 
• be encouraged to persevere through healing, 
• to find help for problems uniquely common to survivors and 
• to feel safe to share with others who have been hurt by repetitive, pro-longed abuse and trauma by a family member or someone trusted with the child's wellbeing.

If you would like, please feel comfortable to share information, ask questions, and introduce yourself (and your blog/website) to others who come to this blog.

Be hopeful, healing is real. The nightmare can stop. Adult survivors are being setting free from their abusive childhood past and learning to love and be loved.